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Reddit was awesome. It’s sad what became of it.
Started in Lemmy but kbin’s reputation system woo’d me over!
Tried to write it in a short form 😂
If you’re willing to lose a community otherwise, then that’s fair enough.
Oh, decisions!
people are leaving due to the extreme lack of niche content
Gotta get active and be a creator for such content yourself then, eh? To raise possibilities to get other actives around while at it.
armchair activist bullshit constantly taking up the feed and comments sections.
I encourage to ignore or block communities/users/whatnot that don’t add any content to your interest or cause harm for ya.
My girlfriend sees her family every Christmas.
I’ll be longing to see her in the meanwhile (I visit my own elsewhere), but otherwise I’m OK.
I believe that also a coke is something around 5€ here
I don’t think this is about alcohol.
I believe most of them order something else cos it’s late Monday and most people go to work the next day.
I’ve never seen the place packed. Maybe 33% full tops.
WRT?
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…if all the other people you were going with were also unwilling to buy…
Everyone else orders.
dropping a fiver
I’m not familiar with this saying. Meaning?
If the hobby has shared supplies…
Nope. Everyone buys their consumables with their own money after the hobby time, separately from the hobby activity.
…it’s important to be upfront with your wealthier friends if you can’t afford to go to the bar
In some other/a general scenario this sounds fine 🙂
In my case - I couldn’t care less about the part of not being able to buy a drink or drinking only water when someone else took something else. So, it’s fine by me to sit with them in a bar.
It’s her behavior that made a mood drop.
Besides…she knows that I live on the basic income support so I believe this isn’t the case in my situation 🤔
They might reconsider going to somewhere else or someone’s flat instead or just invite you
Sounds nice!
In my case - I don’t think anyone lives that close to the bar, and the bar has been used as a place to hang afterwards by this group for years (I believe).
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You could try a sort of compromise and order a glass of tap water, assuming that it’s free in your country of course. That way you order something, but make it clear that you won’t spend any money. You are not sneaking in and instead being upfront with the staff.
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She is not working at this place. (Well I assume so - she hasn’t said she does and I don’t think she behaves (otherwise) in a way that would say otherwise).
Can I advertise a kbin-based community in any of these links?
Her getting upset is likely second hand embarrassment due to their own insecurities.
It could (also) be about principles.
I have my water ready before I even enter the place.
People walk up to the bar when entering the place, get a drink and take it to tables.
…I’m not sure how they’d get a refill (I don’t recall my group refilling) but I’d assume they go up to the bar again.
…would you behave this way in a restaurant?
Yes. I haven’t ordered anything while a friend has eaten something.
But you simply wouldn’t get away with that if it wasn’t for the others buying drinks and we do so to “pay the rent” so to speak
Hmm. I think I wouldn’t go to a bar with a group of people if nobody were ready to buy anything.
I’d believe a library would be one better option in that case.
We don’t have the tipping culture here 🙂
I don’t think this is about alcohol.
I believe most of them order something else cos it’s late Monday and most people go to work the next day.
Well, maybe so.
They will put your intimidation, charisma and other skills related to the Ultimate test nevertheless!
Hmm. Good point.
Some of us are ready to try that stuff out too, but there are risks involved that you mentioned.
exploration has always been a key factor in a relationship
Nothing wrong with that.
We have new things to experience in other stuff of life too.
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Exploration of the self should be a constant thing
You can do it in many different surroundings and variables. Another situation teaches X better than another. Some situation might not teach anything.
So, you can learn things about yourself in a relationship or after that never occurred to you before.
Something you are told about from the past (and whatever else) can sound epic or horrible. Something you’ve heard can lift your mood or give you a feeling of sorrow.
Experiencing the told story and the feelings you’d experience within however is nothing compared to the feels you get from a story.