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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • That’s a very black and white way of putting it. As long as you’re an adult who can tell the difference between fantasy and reality, and you’re not spending hours obsessed with it I don’t think it’s unhealthy. The way you phrase ‘avoid it completely’ makes it sound like you’re going out of your way to avoid it already.

    (I think the problems are coming through with the generation being ‘brought up on porn’, and thinking real sex is like it is in the videos online but that’s a different story really.)




  • I’ve only heard of Mary Seacole out of the black Britons from history we’re expected to know of.

    I actually googled the musician and he has a relatively interesting story but it’s also not at all surprising people don’t know who he is today - he had one piece which was very popular called the Feast of Hiawatha which according to Google was played regularly until 1939 and then doesn’t seem to have been revived. Seems he was much better regarded as a conductor.

    Anyhow, historically this country’s establishment has made it hard for black people to get famous until the 20th century, something that this academic surely knows. She’s either naive or deliberately skewing her results for headlines by asking for names from a time when her top rankings include a Roman Governor!









  • I just started using it for Android the last month or so when Chrome dropped the flag feature that let you toggle dark mode for websites with system dark mode.

    I have a VPN with an adblocker so that aspect of Chrome never bothered me so much. Chrome felt like it worked slightly smoother but at the end of the day a browser is a browser and Firefox does the job. (Samsung’s browser is actually surpringly good for those with a Samsung device looking for a Chrome alternative)

    Firefox does seem more trustworthy overall, although I’ve learned by now that trusting tech companies is not a sensible thing to do.



  • I remember definitely that Firefox was the browser of choice in our house pre-Google. IE was always nasty to use and my Dad was always a tinkerer and worked with IT guys a lot so we had Firefox on PC for ages

    (As a side note those same well meaning IT guys persuaded my Dad Linux was really easy to set up and use as a home PC for the whole family. Didn’t end well)

    Anyway, Firefox was trumping IE hands down as a family PC browser, I suppose I’m talking late 90s early naughts? Don’t know exactly. But we would have been using Ask Jeeves still as our search engine before Google search launched and that made my Dad’s eyes light up, because it was fast. And it was the same with Chrome when it came out. By then I’d moved out but like you say, they had the PR as the guys who were now changing things most.

    And it wasn’t all bs, because it was and in many ways is a very good browser. On the one hand there’s definitely an element of people using what everyone else does but also, if it was a total crock of shit no one would use it. For me it’s not even so much privacy but my tolerance for ads and need for a dark mode on mobile have got me back to Firefox on Android for now






  • This makes absolute sense until they get to secondary school (ages 11-16). All the kids at school have mobiles. You might have put the best parental controls on your sprogs phone but someone else hasn’t and his son - he’s the one showing pictures and videos at playtime. The problem is that kids don’t live in a bubble.

    I’m in the UK, don’t have a clue about what laws are coming in but am against this type of state intervention into private life of adults. Adults uploading id online is not something I am for.

    But I am pretty much in favour of banning smartphones in schools with kids that age these days - I’m a very liberal guy but I’ve heard so many horror stories from friends that are teachers.

    I actually think the main problem is the nature of the pornography itself. The stuff that comes up with choking and hair pulling and all that… There’s porn which is just people getting it on but it seems to be this violent stuff that gets to kids first and that’s the bit I don’t understand. I’m old. When I was their age it was magazines of naked people. A more innocent time.


  • From your tone it doesn’t sound like you’re comfortable with the idea. Would it be so bad to try retaking it? Would your parents be angry or give you grief over it? I know there’s different levels of acceptability of bribery in different parts of the world so I’m guessing your somewhere where it’s not as strictly monitored as where I am.

    But go with your instincts. At the end of the day it’s you taking the risk of paying a bribe, not your parents, and it’s your moral choice, not theirs. But at the same time I know how annoying parental pressure can be!