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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • I just don’t respond if I’m doing something else or calling it a night. It’s ok to set boundaries by just taking your time to respond. You don’t have to respond immediately and it’s not really healthy to expect them to every time either. Anyone that can’t handle that and stops responding just isn’t going to be a match for you if you need to have that kind of break from responding. I’m definitely opposed to the white lies, I prefer someone I’m communicating with to at least respect me enough to be up front about it if they say anything at all, but I don’t need a reason if they don’t respond for hours or even a day or so.







  • Even during the breaking up, try not to console them or make them feel better. I don’t mean be a jackass. Other comments have covered the overall approach very well already. I just mean trying to help them feel better about it is really just for you. They’re going to and are allowed to process it however they’re going to, and you give up a right to try to be a part of their healing when you break it off.

    Be kind during, give them space if you actually want to remain friends after, and let them process and heal how they will.

    As I’ve gotten older I’ve actually preferred to be broken up with over being the one breaking it off. It’s hard to do that to someone you care about but isn’t a good fit for whatever reason. When it’s broken off with me I can say so be it and start moving on and not have to hurt another person in the process.