Examples of how toxic masculinity and the patriarchy affects life presented in speech rather than a bullet point list. These terms are describing social structures and expectations. Not about hating individual men. The examples all are absolutely negative products of hegemonic masculinity. Look into sociological/gender studies/anthropology resources on the subject. I don’t have the bandwidth to try and give you a primer on these schools of study, but they readily exist.

The DAILY DOUBLE! Woo.

Real talk. The effects of toxic masculinity are tangled up everywhere, in everything, crossing the blood-brain barrier like micro plastics. If you honestly think it don’t exist, it’s big sign to me that you are wrapped up in it to drowning. People shut down empathy as a trauma response, or because they’re trying to replicate behaviors of a perceived ‘in-group’ (this would be the patriarchy) to gain acceptance. Either way it’s got you. We’re talking a nationwide ban on healthcare based on gender for half the country, and you don’t see it? You don’t think having healthcare is pretty fucking foundational? Is it 1 in 3 women who live under a ban in America now? Having your leaders celebrated for sexual violence not cast down ain’t a sign to you? 'Grab ‘em by the pussy’ is running neck and neck for one of the most powerful executive positions in the world. We’re criminalizing men who wear feminine attire, policing who is woman enough to piss where. The right just fell over itself to mock a kid who was proud to tears of his father. God forbid a man express joy. I keep getting texts from friends floored over the photo of Walz getting bunny eared by his smiling kids. There’s a big reason why seeing them so completely unafraid to tease their father in public is resonating with people.

I’d like to take ‘repression, and over-compensating’ for 500 Alex.

I’m not going to argue which gender is the bigger victim of toxic masculinity. The bodies are stacked too high for me to see over. But please don’t say it impacts ‘much less than a percentage of 1%.’

Like, my father used to tie up my dog and whale on it with a belt when he was angry and that’s probably the least fucked-up-thing-your-dad-did story of my peer group. If you don’t think it’s affected you, you are either very lucky, or somebody who is long overdue to talk it out.

I’ve been screamed at a lot for daring to sit at the short edge of a rectangular table while in the presence of a man. Does that count for father-daughter lessons? This thread is wild.

+1 for sopuli. Chill, only defederates from meta, nazis and sketchy porn.

Bacon, pineapple, and jalapenos. Ambrosia my brother.

This also evolves into little paws poking you in the face at 2 am until you let them under the duvet.

Haven’t got to that chapter yet. 🙂

If I had an extra machine I totally would fafo, but alas I must approach with caution.

Working on it, but only on page 5 of Linux for dummies

got an isbn for it? Should be on the copyright page.

Edit: 10 or 13 digit number that (should) be unique to that publication. Paste it into your search engine of choice and you be able to find either a commercial or catalog entry for it which would give you some cataloging info for it such as file size or pagination to compare. Also I think that series is pretty popular and would be available as an ebook from you local library (if you are US) getting the card is really easy. Would recommend libraries 10/10. Libby charges libraries too much to use, but it’s totally free for the patron and super convenient to use.

Somebody worked out that hunter/gatherers only averaged 4-5 hrs of work a day. I think I’m pulling this from a recent episode of ‘No Such Thing as a Fish’

No Such Thing as a Fish - It’s light and comedic, each presenter explains a little known bizarre or extraordinary fact and the others riff off from it. There’s no specific discipline of study it follows, and it doesn’t do any deep dives, but it’s fun to listen to while doing the dishes.

I’m with you. In ye olden times, hitting different development milestones during points of the year with different resource availabilities probably had an effect on personalities, and once a pattern is observed people like to make up a story to explain it. If you aren’t letting it rule your life it’s a bit of harmless fun. Like a lucky number or color. People are too protective of their own irrationalities while denouncing other’s.

arg?

Crash Landing on You (2019) has like every single romantic comedy trope and it was still fun. Kingdom (2019) was also good. It was a fresh take on zombies and suspenseful, but season 2 left on a cliffhanger and season 3 is in limbo.

edit: I forgot Mad for Each Other (2021)! Another mostly romantic comedy about a guy with anger issues and woman with paranoid delusions as neighbors. It’s quirky and quick paced. (tho TW for past domestic abuse.)