I’ve been trying to find a good Marxist instance, but Lemmygrad and Hexbear are widely hated. Why is that? Are there any good leftist instances?

  • Garfield@lemm.ee
    8·
    10 months ago

    as a trans person reading some of the comments they cite as the reason you’re banned they seem pretty transphobic, just because you preface one of them with an ‘im not transphobic, but…’ comment it doesnt make it not transphobic to mock people for using neopronouns

    “I think neopronouns are stupid and come from a place of privilege and boredom”

    “neopronouns are entirely a basement dweller thing.”

    “I’m not even a liberal, but y’all are so chronically online and accustomed to being in a little echo chamber you can’t talk to anyone rationally. I’ve never met a trans person IRL who needs me to remember 4 pronouns, or needs pronouns like “Fae”, but say something on Hexbear and you’re instantly transphobic liberal Hitler.”

    “Pronouns are fine, y’all took it to a level that looks like alt-right satire of pronouns. Trans rights are human rights, but am I literally Hitler because I don’t think “comrade” or “fae” make sense when used as pronouns? You seem very rational and not at all unhinged.”

    “Trans people don’t need 4 pronouns including things like “Fae” and “Doe”, or by “trans” you are you referring to “trans-species” people? I’m not yet open minded on trans-species, I’ll grant you that.”

    • FaeDrifter@midwest.socialEnglish
      24·
      10 months ago

      Yeah I was a complete asshole. Not an excuse, but this was after about 2-dozen people sexually harassed me, so I was not at my best. And I will apologize any time for anyone who is hurt or offended.

      That said, I was also speaking to people who started out as rape apologists in the context of Russian soldiers and Ukrainians families. If you’re pretty cool with kids getting raped by soldiers, but you’re offended that someone didn’t memorize 4 different neo-pronouns, that is 100% a place of privilege. Am I wrong on that?

      Edit: also, as you are a trans person, recognizing that you are in a world where your safety is often a razor-thin line, anything I said that you felt unsafe around, I do deeply apologize.

      • Garfield@lemm.ee
        5·
        10 months ago

        looking at the original thread through the modlog on their side they were actually talking about food security in china and not r*pe apologia. Even if they had been saying how great SA is, the transphobia you showed in that thread entirely unprompted wouldnt have been justified because they were doing something that was also bad

        • FaeDrifter@midwest.socialEnglish
          12·
          10 months ago

          Also gonna bug you again because I am so thirsty for conversation around this.

          I am not trans, but from what I’ve seen and experienced from people close to me, especially in the midwest, living as a trans person is difficult and dangerous. There’s so much work to put in to be perceived a certain way, which bathroom is it safe to use, getting medical care, getting hormones and transitioning, who is it safe to come out to.

          But then you can have over here a super privileged white man, who decides he now goes by neo-pronouns, puts no work or risk in and retains every privilege in society of being a white man.

          This looks to me in absolutely no way comparable to what it’s like to be trans.

          I would say something like, I feel like neo-pronoun people have culturally appropriated the struggle of trans people. You can pick up some neo-pronouns and get all the leftist points, without actually putting yourself on the line the way trans people put themselves on the line.

          I’ll take the L again and say the above is coming from a place of personal ignorance. I am an ignorant asshole. I’m very interesting in learning different and even better perspectives.

        • FaeDrifter@midwest.socialEnglish
          12·
          10 months ago

          Since you’re either unable or unwilling to engage in any further, I’ll tell you what it looks like right now:

          Any rational well-adjusted person will be pro-trans rights. Therefore it doesn’t make a good enough loyalty check for a rather high-key cultish group. The neo-pronouns are the loyalty check. Neo-pronouns have nothing to do with being trans, everything to do with checking to see if someone fits into the cult.

          Hexbear weaponizes accusations of transphobia the exact way Israel weaponizes accusations of antisemitism. It’s nothing to do with trans people or Jewish people, and everything to do with the cult. You are either with the cult, or you’re against it.

          At the end of the day, Israel is bad for Jews, and will happily sacrifice the rights of Jewish people around the world, I think Hexbear is bad for trans rights, and will happily sacrifice the rights and safety of trans people anywhere in the world to achieve its own political goals. For example, Dems in the US might be trash, but they are also the only change trans people have right now. I think Hexbear would throw trans people in the US in front of a train if it meant a geopolitical win for them.

          So call me whatever you want; when it comes to afab and amab people who want to be identified as a brother, a sister, or a sibling, they have always had my unwavering support. When it comes to Hexbear and the neo-pronouns, that is demonstrably the real transphobia, and trans exploitation. And I am still waiting to hear otherwise.

          • Garfield@lemm.ee
            2·
            10 months ago

            i literally just wasnt looking at lemmy, i didnt see your three comments until now, i wasnt like evading you or anything. i’ll just like read what you said fully now

        • FaeDrifter@midwest.socialEnglish
          13·
          10 months ago

          So maybe you can help me out with this bit:

          Where I’m at right now, I feel like trans inclusivity means, that regardless of being born afab or amab, if you want to be perceived and treated by he/him pronouns, she/her pronouns, or they/them pronouns, you deserve that recognition and treatment.

          That is currently where I am at for trans inclusivity.

          I support that, in my workplace and in my community.

          Am I falling short here? Am I not reaching far enough to be trans inclusive?

          Edit: SA was a different thread, it’s somewhere way back there in my history.

          • spiderplant@lemm.ee
            3·
            10 months ago

            Gonna give you my honest two cents.

            You come across as a cunt whenever you police who can use neo pronouns based on how they look or act.

            Pronouns are something people should be free to explore.

            Hopefully being able to look into the topic without prejudice will allow people to discover their own queerness and/or empathise with people that do use them.

            Neverind that that is bad faith to argue that hexbear enforces neo pronouns, trad pronouns or anonymous can be used.