• schmidtster@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    If you were paying someone to take care of your kid, you would be perfectly fine with them saying no when the kid asks to do something?

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      10 months ago

      I don’t think that’s really comparable, a parent isn’t being paid, a babysitter can choose not to babysit. And besides, it really depends on what the kid’s asking to do. I’ve definitely been told I can’t do things when I was being babysat.

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        10 months ago

        Babysitting? Think more childcare services. You get what you pay for with babysitters.

        Parents aren’t paid, but you should be putting in more effort than you expect from paid child care workers.

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      10 months ago

      Parenting is a 24/7 job. You need to take your breaks while on the clock because you’re never off the clock. Paying someone for childcare services is a job with a start and end time. You can take your breaks before or after. The expectations are different because the jobs are different.

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        10 months ago

        Parenting isn’t a 24/7 job who’s told you that? Most people have partners and you get breaks when your kid is sleeping, at school, and being cared for by others. If you can’t do it, you should be paying someone so you can get your break. Not neglecting your kids.

        It’s not different, people just use it as an excuse to be terrible to their kids.

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          10 months ago

          I’m living through this right now. I don’t need anyone else to tell me anything. My partner and I alternate on childcare while the other person handles other household duties and day job duties. Our parents come by regularly to help out and we use that time to catch up on sleep as best as we can. Paying for childcare doesn’t make sense as it just negates most of one person’s income. If I’m going to be working anyway and not resting, I’d much rather put that energy towards my kid and have less money than be away but have sightly more money.