I think I got a crush on my dance instructor. Which fucking sucks for all the obvious reasons. Normally I wouldn’t be so worried. BUT I JUST HAD A GODDAMN ROMANTIC DREAM ABOUT HER. Seriously I just woke up from a dream about her confessing her love to me and me eagerly doing the same about her.

So how do you stop a crush from developing further? Because this is a well from which only disappointment may be drawn.

Edit: I am single btw.

  • Usernameblankface@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    In my experience, get to know the person, as a person. I see the crush as a separate entity from myself. The crush sees them as some unrealistic ideal superhuman, which falls apart when I take time to find out who the actual person is.

    This assumes you have opportunities to casually chat without planning time specifically, or you can be in a regular part of group conversations.

    • Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      8 months ago

      I had a crush and had this like, idea* of who they might be.

      Got to know them more and more, and… they’re exactly the person my imagination fabricated.

      Anyway, we’re married and shit now. I wish the same for every person with a crush.